The Power of Accountability in Wellness

Setting a goal is easy right? It is as simple as thinking of something you desire and wishing it into existence. Well, if you have accomplished any of the goals you have set lately you know that achieving a goal takes discipline and intentionality.

Why is it that some people succeed and others don’t? Is self-discipline alone enough to accomplish goals? As I try to achieve my wellness goals, these are the questions that come to mind. As I balance the daily tasks of being a wife, mother, friend, and Nurse Practitioner, I have noticed that sometimes my wellness goals take longer to achieve than when I was younger with fewer responsibilities.

When I was younger and single, I remember the thrill of writing a paper at the last minute; fitting into a dress before a party at the end of the week; going to the gym twice in one day; and having hours of “me” time to sleep, binge watch shows, and be carefree. I could succeed at any goal I set with very little planning.

Although I find joy in motherhood, friendships, marriage, and my career, it can leave very little time in each day to focus on my personal goals. I have learned that if I leave my goals to chance, it will not happen. One great tool that I have discovered in the journey of accomplishing my wellness goals is the power of an accountability partner.

My accountability partners in my journey of wellness have been a lifeline for me. Sometimes I can become consumed in my daily tasks. The gentle reminders or the stern reality checks are exactly what I need to refocus my energy and get back on track. Do you have an accountability partner? If so, how did you choose your partner?

I have several accountability partners. For my weight loss goals, I chose a friend who has the same desire to reach her ideal body weight. We share our activity on our apple watches and our meal choices. I have an accountability partner for journaling and meditation. We both desire to start our mornings with moments of gratitude and reflection. I believe it is ok to have multiple accountability partners on the journey of wellness. I chose partners who have the same desires as me, and some who serve as mentors.

When starting my blog and creating this wellness community, I surrounded myself with women who I knew would hold me accountable. I had moments of doubt. I questioned if anyone would want to listen to what I had to say. Sure I have several degrees and over ten years of nursing experience, but I too struggle with committing to my wellness goals when life gets busy. I don’t think of myself as the picture perfect example of wellness. My goal is to change the perspective of what wellness looks like. I want to give women someone to identify with. No I am not perfect, but I make daily efforts to accomplish my goal of mental and physical balance. My accountability team reminds me of my goals every step of the way, and encourages me to never give up.

Below I have listed some tips I use when setting goals and deciding who I chose as my accountability partner.

• Write down your goals and why they are important. How will each goal affect your mental and physical health?

• What are the potential barriers to reaching my goals? It is important to identify what barriers can keep you from reaching your goals so you can make plans to overcome those barriers.

• Set a realistic timeline to accomplish your goals. Determine what amount of time is needed each day to achieve your long-term goal(s). Small daily wins equal big wins.

• Establish an accountability partner. Choose someone who can complete the journey with you. You can use this experience to discuss similar obstacles and learn from each other’s victories and mistakes. Choose someone who has accomplished the goal you have set. Sometimes you need to have a partner who can serve as a guide on your journey. Be careful when choosing a mentor. Remember that your journey does not have to be identical to be successful.

• Establish routine check-ups. Establish check-in dates throughout your wellness journey and be prepared to be held accountable.

I believe accountability partners are beneficial in reaching goals, especially when life can pull you in many directions. In a way, accountability partners can help keep you focused on what is important. I believe goals can be achieved without an accountability partner, but for me, having a partner makes the journey fun and more enjoyable. Hold yourself accountable, do the work, stay disciplined, celebrate the small wins, share your journey, and crush your goals.

Your Sister in Wellness,

Lauren